I was so excited to have a baby.
What could be better that having a blessing from God in your own house? A bouncing baby girl. How exciting. I knew having a baby would cost money, I'm not dumb enough to think that we wouldn't have to change our spending habits in order to afford all the diapers. However, I am a firm believer that if you wait until you "can afford" a baby, you'll never have one. Unless of course you're married to a very rich man, or come from a family with money (I am neither).
When Lexi was born we were given so much! I couldn't believe the amount of diapers we received as gifts, not to mention all the other important things you need for a baby. We didn't have to regularly buy diapers until Lexi was almost 9 months old. We honestly only bough about 5 packs for her between birth and nine months, and 2 of those packs were because we had gone on a 2 week long trip and didn't want to take all the diapers we needed along.
Once she hit 9 months and our supply had run out we started purchasing them weekly. Boy did this add up! I'm sure we spend about $40 a month on incontinence products.
I have thought about switching to Cloth diapers, Beth uses them for her two so I know I'd have support if I needed it. The problem is we haven't seemed to have the money needed to get started with them (plus my husband's not a big fan of this option).
So for now we shop around and use coupons to get the best deals on the diapers, maybe with Eugene's end of the year bonus we'll buy some cloth ones, or maybe she'll be potty trained by 18 months. (I'm sure since she started crawling at 12 months, and got her first 2 teeth at 12 months she'll jump right ahead to being potty trained....)
Buying Children's clothes
Frugal Friday is here again!
I am very excited to say that my daughter is 1 year old and we have only purchased about 15 articles of clothing for her, only 5 were new from a store and we only paid full price for 2 of them. Oh, and did I fail to mention we pretty much have all the clothes she needs until she's 3? How do I do it? Most of the clothes came from friends and acquaintances, as their daughters or grand daughters outgrew the clothes they'd give them to me. I highly recommend used clothes. Especially when they are little because they don't wear the clothes very long. Some of our clothes were shower gifts or birthday presents, others came from consignment sales. This site is great because you can put in your state and it brings up a list of children's consignment sales in your area. I love consignment sales! If you're expecting a baby you should really check one out, it's a great way to save money. In TN I used to go to one called Just Between Friends, it was by far the biggest one over there. They have them in several states so check and see if there is one near you. There are also children's consignment stores all over the place which is where I have purchased a few things for her if we really need them and can't wait until a sale is coming up. I've also learned to shop in clearance sections as well as in thrift stores and at yard sales. My favorite by far are the consignment sales though! I just recently found another site which I haven't used yet but you can exchanged children's clothes, toys and items with other people. It's called Kidzoodle. No money is used except what you spent to mail out what other people request from you. You post items you have that you want to get rid of and you attain credits for those items, you then use the credits you received to get other people's items. Check it out.
I am very excited to say that my daughter is 1 year old and we have only purchased about 15 articles of clothing for her, only 5 were new from a store and we only paid full price for 2 of them. Oh, and did I fail to mention we pretty much have all the clothes she needs until she's 3? How do I do it? Most of the clothes came from friends and acquaintances, as their daughters or grand daughters outgrew the clothes they'd give them to me. I highly recommend used clothes. Especially when they are little because they don't wear the clothes very long. Some of our clothes were shower gifts or birthday presents, others came from consignment sales. This site is great because you can put in your state and it brings up a list of children's consignment sales in your area. I love consignment sales! If you're expecting a baby you should really check one out, it's a great way to save money. In TN I used to go to one called Just Between Friends, it was by far the biggest one over there. They have them in several states so check and see if there is one near you. There are also children's consignment stores all over the place which is where I have purchased a few things for her if we really need them and can't wait until a sale is coming up. I've also learned to shop in clearance sections as well as in thrift stores and at yard sales. My favorite by far are the consignment sales though! I just recently found another site which I haven't used yet but you can exchanged children's clothes, toys and items with other people. It's called Kidzoodle. No money is used except what you spent to mail out what other people request from you. You post items you have that you want to get rid of and you attain credits for those items, you then use the credits you received to get other people's items. Check it out.
What I Believe about Discipline part 1
I think I have a pretty old fashioned view on discipline, not just in child raising but also when it comes to criminals. I feel American's have slacked off in this area, which of course is causing a lot of problems in our society. I feel that if parents would step up and discipline their children instead of spoiling them rotten, then the law enforcement's job would be a lot easier. Two summers ago I worked at a day camp for a Tae Kwan do office, I have to be honest I wanted to smack several of the children. I couldn't believe the number of 5 year olds that had game boys and stacks of games. I couldn't believe the number of 9 year olds with cell phones- who used them a lot! But most of all I couldn't believe the amount of disrespect I saw. I know growing up I could be quite mouthy, My mom often tells me the story of how her and my father got called in to talk to the principle and my kindergarten teacher because I had told my teacher she was very stupid and if she didn't start teaching me something I was going to drop out of school. I know we were mouthy back then. There is one major difference I am seeing though, it's the way parents react to children. When I made that comment, although my parents found it amusing they didn't let me know that until I was older. Instead of seeing the humor in the statement, I was shown the rudeness of my comment by enjoying the taste of soap. I also remember one time I was arguing with my mom about cleaning my room (I was older, probably about 8), I told her "no" do you know where that got me? It got me cleaning my room with a very sore bottom from my daddy's belt. That summer I watched some very similar interactions between parents and their children, do you know what I saw those children get? Nothing. Their parents laughed at the rude things they said, they continued to argue with their children when they told them "no". The children learned no discipline, they only learned that they could control their parents, they learned they didn't need to show us respect because they didn't have show their parents respect.
I fully believe in spanking. I am not saying I am going to beat my child black and blue, there is a difference between abuse and discipline. I believe there is a time for spanking and that time is when they out right disobey you. When they tell you no, or when you tell them not to do something and they turn around and do it. Children should respect and obey their parents. There are many Bible verses that say those same words. Ephesians 6:1-3 says "Children obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honor thy father and mother; that it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth" There are also many verses to us parents about how to treat our children with love, and how we should raise them up in the way of the Lord. One of the more well known ones is a verse in Proverbs that says "spare the rod, spoil the child." The Bible promotes spanking, just read Proverbs if you don't believe me.
Many people however approach spanking wrong and forget to show their children love while doing so. I feel that if you do spank your child there are certain rules which you should go by in doing so. The first most important one I use is never discipline while you are still angry. The reason is obvious, if you spank while you are still angry you are more than likely going to spank your child more than needed and have a harder time explaining to them why they were wrong because your emotions will be guiding you. I would recommend sending them to their room, or the corner until you have calmed down enough to talk to them. Which brings me to my rule #2- always explain what they did wrong and why it was wrong in a loving way before spanking. If you just go after them with a wooden spoon (my mom's favorite item) and whack them then send them away that teaches them nothing. But if you sit down and say "Tommy, you know better than to tell me no and lie to me. God wants us to respect and obey our parents and when you lie you aren't showing me respect. I told you not to do ________ (fill in the blank) because it could hurt you and I don't want to see you get hurt. You know there are punishments when we disobey and that is why I am going to have to spank you now. Do you understand?" I really think if parents would use this method it would help avoid useless spankings. My 3rd rule is love after you spank. Make sure you open your arms to your crying child and tell them you love them, tell them again why they had to get the spanking, but make sure they know you love them. My last rule is make sure you know what age to stop spanking. This might be different for each child but I think that by age 10 the spankings should stop and other forms of discipline should take their place.
Just as I feel there is a time for spanking I feel there is a time for using other forms of discipline such as time outs, grounding or taking away toys. Whatever the form of discipline make sure before you discipline that the boundaries have been set. You cannot punish a child for doing something he or she did not know was wrong. This is why being consistent is very important. I know some kids who are very confused and actually very angry at their parents, I honestly do not blame them. Their parents are sometimes very strict and other times very laid back. There are no boundaries set in stone, sometimes it is ok to say a certain word, sometimes they get punished by it, sometimes this tv show is ok to watch, sometimes it's not. As you can imagine growing up in such a home has caused many confusing arguments and thoughts. There have been many unnecessary fights and tears shed if the parents would have just made the rules and stuck with them.
There is one more thing that I think is a very important part of discipline. It's Praise. It's very important for a child to know their value, in a world where nothing is ever good enough, it is hard for children to find their worth. It is equally important for us to praise our children when they are doing something good and right as it is for us to discipline our child when they are doing something wrong. A healthy balance of praise and discipline will make a very confident, well behaved adult.
I am a big fan of Dr. Dobson, in my child psychology class in college we had to read his book "Hide or Seek". Although I don't remember everything in that book I remember it was a great reference for discipline, while writing this post I have decided I need to break it out and reread it. I recommend reading it to help establish a form of discipline for your children. It's about so much more than to spank or not to spank.
What other people Believe
I fully believe in spanking. I am not saying I am going to beat my child black and blue, there is a difference between abuse and discipline. I believe there is a time for spanking and that time is when they out right disobey you. When they tell you no, or when you tell them not to do something and they turn around and do it. Children should respect and obey their parents. There are many Bible verses that say those same words. Ephesians 6:1-3 says "Children obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honor thy father and mother; that it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth" There are also many verses to us parents about how to treat our children with love, and how we should raise them up in the way of the Lord. One of the more well known ones is a verse in Proverbs that says "spare the rod, spoil the child." The Bible promotes spanking, just read Proverbs if you don't believe me.
Many people however approach spanking wrong and forget to show their children love while doing so. I feel that if you do spank your child there are certain rules which you should go by in doing so. The first most important one I use is never discipline while you are still angry. The reason is obvious, if you spank while you are still angry you are more than likely going to spank your child more than needed and have a harder time explaining to them why they were wrong because your emotions will be guiding you. I would recommend sending them to their room, or the corner until you have calmed down enough to talk to them. Which brings me to my rule #2- always explain what they did wrong and why it was wrong in a loving way before spanking. If you just go after them with a wooden spoon (my mom's favorite item) and whack them then send them away that teaches them nothing. But if you sit down and say "Tommy, you know better than to tell me no and lie to me. God wants us to respect and obey our parents and when you lie you aren't showing me respect. I told you not to do ________ (fill in the blank) because it could hurt you and I don't want to see you get hurt. You know there are punishments when we disobey and that is why I am going to have to spank you now. Do you understand?" I really think if parents would use this method it would help avoid useless spankings. My 3rd rule is love after you spank. Make sure you open your arms to your crying child and tell them you love them, tell them again why they had to get the spanking, but make sure they know you love them. My last rule is make sure you know what age to stop spanking. This might be different for each child but I think that by age 10 the spankings should stop and other forms of discipline should take their place.
Just as I feel there is a time for spanking I feel there is a time for using other forms of discipline such as time outs, grounding or taking away toys. Whatever the form of discipline make sure before you discipline that the boundaries have been set. You cannot punish a child for doing something he or she did not know was wrong. This is why being consistent is very important. I know some kids who are very confused and actually very angry at their parents, I honestly do not blame them. Their parents are sometimes very strict and other times very laid back. There are no boundaries set in stone, sometimes it is ok to say a certain word, sometimes they get punished by it, sometimes this tv show is ok to watch, sometimes it's not. As you can imagine growing up in such a home has caused many confusing arguments and thoughts. There have been many unnecessary fights and tears shed if the parents would have just made the rules and stuck with them.
There is one more thing that I think is a very important part of discipline. It's Praise. It's very important for a child to know their value, in a world where nothing is ever good enough, it is hard for children to find their worth. It is equally important for us to praise our children when they are doing something good and right as it is for us to discipline our child when they are doing something wrong. A healthy balance of praise and discipline will make a very confident, well behaved adult.
I am a big fan of Dr. Dobson, in my child psychology class in college we had to read his book "Hide or Seek". Although I don't remember everything in that book I remember it was a great reference for discipline, while writing this post I have decided I need to break it out and reread it. I recommend reading it to help establish a form of discipline for your children. It's about so much more than to spank or not to spank.
What other people Believe
She takes after her dad.
Here's some pictures of Lexi that prove she is her father's daughter
She likes CD's.
She likes Video games
She likes CD's.
She likes Video games
she takes her hands off the wheel while she drives
and she likes to kiss her mom..... a lot. - it kinda looks like she's giving me mouth to mouth in this picture. This is her newest thing, normally she'll grab my ears or my hair and give me the biggest, wettest kiss ever.
get paid to blog
Beth told me about this, I'm sure some of you have heard about it, but you can actually get paid to blog! I started doing it last week and have already completed 14 assignments. It is a very easy way to make money, it doesn't take much time and you get to do what you love to do! Blog! After you sign up with payu2blog they will start giving you assignments. With each assignment you have a key word and a URL to link to that word. Sometimes the words are weird like colon cleanse (yes I actually had this word) other times they are simple like table cloth or pen. All you have to do is use the word in your blog and link the URL to it. The only requirement is that your blog must be 60 words or more and it has to be positive. You don't have to do the whole blog about that key word, you can just include it in your normal blog. The great part is you get paid $5 for each assignment. $5! to blog! How awesome is that?
it Works for Me!
it Works for Me!
The man upstairs
I have a problem and I'm not really sure what to do about it. The guy who lives in the apartment above us smokes in his apartment. That's fine, it's his business not mine, I don't know if we're allowed to smoke in the building, but I know we're not allowed to have dogs and he has one. Like I said, that's his business not mine. But there are days when he's home that he smokes so much the smell comes through the floor and half of our apartment smells like Cigarettes. Now it's my business. I do not want my apartment or my stuff smelling like we smoke, and I definitely do not want us breathing in his nicotine. So now what? Do I confront him, do I confront the landlord, do I just ignore it? If I confront someone what do I say? I can't keep him from smoking in his apartment, that's his home. He should be able to do what he wants just like I should be able to do what I want with my home. But what happens when him doing what he wants affects me doing what I want? that is the big question in life, the question behind numerous wars and arguments. I know life wont always be the way I want it but there has to be something to keep me from smelling smoke all day. I don't want to be the tenant that complains about everything and I will admit in our previous apartment I complained a lot about stupid things. I've tried to only mention the important things to our property managers here, things like leaky sinks and broken kitchen lights. It's so hard to stay content when you want so much more.
My boring Kitchen
So Ashley's living room has made me realize how boring my kitchen is. I had every intention of making curtains like I made for the rest of the house, but we haven't had the money to look for material. Our whole apartment is painted this khaki color, the carpet is tan, the trim and doors are while. That's the color scheme for every room in the apartment and we were told we can't paint the walls. I don't know if we'd be allowed to paint if we covered it up when we left or not but that's a lot of paint and money that I feel would be wasted since we're only planning on being here a year. So that means all the style has to come from my furniture and decorating. The living room would look nice if we had a couch, right now our "couch" consists of two lawn chairs. The bedroom is OK, it at least has curtains. But the Kitchen... I don't even like to go in the kitchen. Of course this is the room where I do most of my work, the washer and dryer are in there, and of course the oven is in there, so there are my two main chores for the day.
My goal for when we get money is to spruce up the kitchen, this will include curtains, a tablecloth, a curtain for the unsightly shelf we use as our pantry and microwave stand, and of course cloth napkins. Now if I can just find a color I like and material that will make the kitchen look inviting and fun!
My goal for when we get money is to spruce up the kitchen, this will include curtains, a tablecloth, a curtain for the unsightly shelf we use as our pantry and microwave stand, and of course cloth napkins. Now if I can just find a color I like and material that will make the kitchen look inviting and fun!
Vacation part 2
I had an idea about our family vacation next summer. I was thinking that since my family lives in maine, maybe one of them can start a Maine bed and breakfast and we can go stay there. I figure out of 4 siblings surely one of them can start their own business and afford to let their family members stay there for free, right?! It's not like we're poor pastor's kids or something!
How unhealthy are americans?
The way our bodies work hasn't changed much since they were created but the food we eat has changed drastically. Fast food, easy food, microwaveable meals, eating out, precooked. These words describe most of our diet. Most people know Trans fat is really bad for you, but did you know that if there is less than .5 gram of trans fat per serving they do not have to put it on the nutrition facts? If you see the word hydrogenated in the list of ingredients that means it has trans fat in it. There is a lot we would need to change in America if we wanted to see the obesity rate go back down, see less cancer and disease as well as have healthier citizens. We would first have to start eating healthy to get all the junk out of our bodies, we would probably have to close all fast foods chains and take all junk food off the shelves in store while replacing them with raw fruits and veggies.
A few months ago I was watching a TV show about how unhealthy we are because of choices we have made. This particular guy was talking about the colon and how important it is to keep our colon healthy. Did you know that colon cancer is the 2nd leading cause of cancer deaths in the U.S.? Toxins from the food we eat cause colon cancer as well as other problems. Constipation is the biggest problems Americans face with their colons. With constipation, the toxins are setting in our colons longer than normal and our bodies absorb the toxins. The longer we are exposed to the toxins the higher our risk of disease. Did you know that the average American only goes to the bathroom once per day, where as every other countries average is 3 times per day. Even if you only go to the bathroom once per day you still have 3 meals worth of waste building up, which is why it is healthy to go 3 times a day. The point the guy on the TV show was trying to make was that in order to be healthier we need to detoxify, there are a few ways to detoxify, one way is a colon cleanse. A healthy colon weighs 4lbs, some autopsies have found colons weighing more than 40lbs, John Wayne and Elvis were two of the people mentioned on this show, one had 40lbs of waste in them and one had 60. can you imagine that? you could do a colon cleanse and loose up to 40lbs!! Talk about instant weight loss!
A few months ago I was watching a TV show about how unhealthy we are because of choices we have made. This particular guy was talking about the colon and how important it is to keep our colon healthy. Did you know that colon cancer is the 2nd leading cause of cancer deaths in the U.S.? Toxins from the food we eat cause colon cancer as well as other problems. Constipation is the biggest problems Americans face with their colons. With constipation, the toxins are setting in our colons longer than normal and our bodies absorb the toxins. The longer we are exposed to the toxins the higher our risk of disease. Did you know that the average American only goes to the bathroom once per day, where as every other countries average is 3 times per day. Even if you only go to the bathroom once per day you still have 3 meals worth of waste building up, which is why it is healthy to go 3 times a day. The point the guy on the TV show was trying to make was that in order to be healthier we need to detoxify, there are a few ways to detoxify, one way is a colon cleanse. A healthy colon weighs 4lbs, some autopsies have found colons weighing more than 40lbs, John Wayne and Elvis were two of the people mentioned on this show, one had 40lbs of waste in them and one had 60. can you imagine that? you could do a colon cleanse and loose up to 40lbs!! Talk about instant weight loss!
To my Mailman- and mail people everywhere
I've really been feeling sorry for my mailman lately. The news said last night we've had 20 days straight of over 90 degree weather and it's supposed to continue through the weekend. I went for a short walk yesterday afternoon and almost melted from the heat. I can't imagine having to work in it. Especially construction workers, landscapers and people who do majorly strenuous work outside all day- I don't know how they do it. Then I got to thinking about mailmen (sorry I'm not politically correct by using that term) They have to drive around going like 5mph all day, most of the time with no air conditioning and even if they had it why would they turn it on since their windows have to be down in order to put the mail in the mail box. Then you have places like my streets and many streets around where they have to actually walk up to the door and put the mail in the little black mailbox on the wall, or apartment buildings and trailer parks that have cbu mailboxes. That just puts them in the heat a little longer. I hope and pray for people who have to work outside that it cools off a bit soon. 74 degrees would feel wonderful right now.
Lists
My life is made up of lists. Does anyone else suffer from the list disease? I have grocery lists, CVS lists, to do lists, lists for when we go on trips, list of things to accomplish in the next year... Lists are in random places all over my apartment. Where there aren't lists you'll find a pad of paper and a pen. My husband's father was a list maker up until the day he died, I imagine I'll be the same. Eugene and his sister often tell me about how their dad would sit down and right a list of things to do, they say he had the same list for as long as they can remember, he never really crossed anything off, just re-wrote the list. I'm not that bad- I actually do cross things off most of the time.
High school memories
I know this is probably going to be a corny blog, I can't help it. I've signed up for payu2blog, I actually get paid to blog some of these- which is why i have started blogging about twice as much as usual. well, one of my key words is custom pens. When I saw this word I was immediately brought back to my high school times of when using certain pens mattered to me. I had a couple particular pens I loved. The RSVP pens were pretty nice, but my ultimate favorite pen was "Mr. twisty". It was a simple thin pen, that you had to twist to use. it was slim, silver and wonderful. I loved the way the ink flowed and the way it made my handwriting look. Funny, now I don't care what kind of pen i use as long as it works.
Family Vacation
Eugene and I decided we need a vacation. We have never had a vacation, we didn't have a honeymoon (unless you count the one night stay in the Marriott by the airport) and the only time either of us has used a day off from work has been to go visit family. Ashley's blog about going to Greece has inspired me even more- not that we would go somewhere that exciting, we have a child after all. We were thinking just a nice family vacation at the beach would be nice. Maybe we can fine a nice piece of Tampa real estate to rent for awhile, or perhaps just a campground on the gulf coast. I feel like going to the beach somewhere, I don't feel like spending a ton of money and I don't want to go somewhere where there is a lot of stuff to do. I prefer more laid back vacations, what some might consider boring. There are so many good vacation spots, what are some of your favorites?
A Neglected Subject
My husband brought a song to my attention the other day that really killed me. The more I thought about it and the more I looked into it I realized the subject of this song is not talked about enough. People are ignoring it, neglecting it, denying that it is as big of a problem as it is. What's the topic? Rape, Porn, Incest. These are painful topics and I think that is why many of us choose to ignore them. The more I learn the more I realize that ignoring them doesn't make them go away, and doesn't help educate our children in how to avoid these things. The song is Constance. I encourage you to watch the video and listen to the lyrics. To those of you who don't care for that style of music, or have slow Internet providers, here are the lyrics. Please read them or watch the video. This is a real story, you can read what Constance has to say on the website that was created to give victims a chance to speak their mind. This story has touched many young women and other victims of rape and incest. If you have the time read some of their stories, you're heart will break.
But it's not just about Constance. It's about the millions of people who are victims of sex crimes. Rape, assault, abuse, incest, porn. They all hurt. Want to know some painful facts?
But it's not just about Constance. It's about the millions of people who are victims of sex crimes. Rape, assault, abuse, incest, porn. They all hurt. Want to know some painful facts?
- 1 in 3 women is raped or abused in her lifetime.
- the average sex offender has 117 victims.
- 38% of reported rapes are by friends or acquaintances
- 28% are from an intimate relationship- close family member or boyfriend/girlfriend
- 6% is a distant relative
- only 26% is a stranger.
- 1 in 6 children under the age of 12 is a victim of rape
- every two and a half minutes someone somewhere in America is assaulted.
These are just reported rapes, on one site I looked at it said 44% of rapes go unreported. Imagine how that changes the statistics. Please be aware of your surroundings. There are offenders around you. Do not live in paranoia, but make sure you know who lives or works in your neighborhood, or near the park you bring your children to. Please make sure you always keep an eye on your children, and do not let them go to any one's house if you do not know their parents. A great way to get the knowledge you need of your neighborhood is to check out Family watch dog. You can enter in an address and it will bring up a map with the list of offenders around, what their charge is and if they work near by. It's a great resource if you're moving to a new town too. Use it, it could keep your child safe.
If you are a victim of rape I feel your pain. I am sorry that someone has hurt you in such a bad way. Please know you are loved, you are not dirty, it is not your fault. You did not do anything to deserve this pain you feel. God loves you more than you can ever imagine and He is here for you. There are a bunch of websites where you can get help. You can find people to talk to who have gone through the same thing. Please take advantage of them. here are a few:
http://www.iamconstance.org/constance.php
http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/ovc/help/welcome.html
http://www.rainn.org/?gclid=CISzvoWYjo4CFR78gAodqF2tYw
And rape is just one of the many sexual crimes being committed every day. Pornography is another silent issue. I know we try to ignore it or think it doesn't affect us. We cannot live like that. We also can't be so naive as to think that pornography is not an issue for Christians. I wouldn't be surprised if it was more of an issue in the church.
Here are some facts about people and porn:
- 17% of all women admit to struggling with porn
- Women, far more than men, are likely to act out their behaviors in real life, such as having multiple partners, casual sex, or affairs.
- 1 out of 3 visitors to adult websites are women
- 9.4 million women access adult websites each month
- 53 % of men at Promise Keepers said they viewed porn in the last week
- 47% of Christians say Porn is a major problem in their home
- the average age of first Internet exposure to porn is 11
- 80 % of 15-17 year olds have had multiple hardcore exposures
- 90% of 8-16yr olds have viewed porn online
- 26 Children's characters are linked to thousands of porn links (including Pokemon and Action Man)
Still think Porn isn't an issue? here's some facts about the porn websites.
- there are 4.2 million pornographic websites (12% of total websites)
- 25% of total daily search engine requests are pornographic
- 8% of total emails are pornographic
- There are 72 million visitors to porn sites annually
And now some amazing facts about the porn industry- ready to get your socks blown off?
- The porn industry brings in $57 billion world wide and $12 billion in the US
- Adult Videos bring in $20 billion a year
- Escort Services bring in $11 billion
- magazines bring in $7.5 billion
- sex clubs bring in $5 billion
- phone sex brings in 44.5 billion
- Child pornography brings in $3 billion
If you are struggling with a porn addiction please know you are not alone. Rest Assure there is help for you too, XXXchurch is a great place to get that help. These are people who love and care about you, and have been where you are. Do not be scared to take the first step to admitting you're addicted.
I hope I have not lost your interest, I know there are a lot of statistics in this blog, but i wanted you to know the truth. To see that these are issues that we are facing in our towns. Use the watchdog to make sure your neighborhood is as safe as you thought it was (mine wasn't). Talk to your children about rape, sex, porn and what to do if something like that ever happened. Talk to you husband or wife and make sure they are aware of how big this issue is. It might bring forth healing from the past or bring secrets out to the open. If that is the case be loving, patient and kind. Make sure they know they are not alone and that they can get help. Know the facts- research these topics more. I didn't even give you any stats for incest so that will give you someplace to start.
I got most of my information from the following websites: http://xxxchurch.com/07/gethelp/index.php, http://www.rainn.org/statistics/index.html, http://www.iamconstance.org/constance.php
Get it for FREE!!
My frugal friday tip for this week is get it for free! A friend of mine at my old church in TN told me about freecycle (www.freecycle.org). If you have never heard of it you need to check it out. It is a yahoo group, with different sections for different towns or counties. You sign up for the one that is near you and you can choose to recieve individual emails or daily emails of all the activity on the group. Here is how it works. If you have something you no longer want you post it on freecycle. Everyone in the group sees the post you wrote and the people that want it email you back and you set up a time that they come pick it up. It's that simple. And since you see what everyone else posts you can find things that you want and email them and go pick it up! It gets even better... If you want something- like poker tables, you post a wanted ad and people who have one that are willing to get rid of it email you back and you can go pick it up! It's great! So far on freecycle i have recieved a booster seat, a toddler swing, a really nice coleman cooler, and an outdoor riding toy. I have gotten rid of way more than I can type on here. This is just a great way to save money!
Check out more money saving ideas here!
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insurance- YAY
I have been counting down the days until Eugene's insurance starts. For a year now we have had no life insurance no medical insurance, no dental insurance, nothing. It's been about 3 years since Eugene had any form of insurance. God has been good to keep us healthy and safe while we didn't have it, but lately Eugene has had all sorts of things going wrong. I think he's getting old. His one wisdome tooth often wakes him up or keeps him up half the night, shooting pain through his jaw into his head. One of his wrists is all messed up, it cracks all the time and hurts him constantly. I've got a cough that refuses to go away, and something crazy going on with the bottom of my foot. I sound like an old person complaining huh? I'm not, really my point in this is that I'm excited that we'll have insurance and I am SO thankful to God that he has kept us healthy and safe.
It kills me to know that there are companies who don't give their employees the option of insurance, I understand small ones, like the one my husband used to work for- I'm ok with that. but there are BIG companies out there who don't help their employees. Thousands of people are living without insurance. There's medicaid available, but many people are abusing it and many people are totally against it because of the people who abuse it. Then there are people who really need it but can't get help because they make too much money and the government doesn't take into affect their bills. I just wish more companies would care about their employees the way Hennon group cares about theirs. that's where my husband works. They get health insurance 100% premium paid for by the company, not just for the employee, but their family too. The list of benefits goes on and on. And this is a small company, why is it that huge companies that have plenty of money can't do the same? They already underpay their employees then they expect them to be able to afford insurance? I just don't think that's right.
It kills me to know that there are companies who don't give their employees the option of insurance, I understand small ones, like the one my husband used to work for- I'm ok with that. but there are BIG companies out there who don't help their employees. Thousands of people are living without insurance. There's medicaid available, but many people are abusing it and many people are totally against it because of the people who abuse it. Then there are people who really need it but can't get help because they make too much money and the government doesn't take into affect their bills. I just wish more companies would care about their employees the way Hennon group cares about theirs. that's where my husband works. They get health insurance 100% premium paid for by the company, not just for the employee, but their family too. The list of benefits goes on and on. And this is a small company, why is it that huge companies that have plenty of money can't do the same? They already underpay their employees then they expect them to be able to afford insurance? I just don't think that's right.
The Sock Bee
This morning I finally got around to folding my clothes that I had outside drying yesterday. it was the usual stuff, socks, t-shirts, underwear, a couple towels. i always hang my shirts on hangers and hang them on my clothes line (which is really rock climbing rope- seriously it can hold like 80lbs) then my smaller stuff goes on a drying rack. Well, when i brought them inside yesterday I threw the t-shirts over the drying rack until i got to them. Today after folding my last t-shirt i went to reach for a pair of socks when i saw something strange on them. It was a bee. a big fat bumble bee. It had decided to try to sting my sock and got stuck. Where are the digital cameras when you need them?
Presents
Eugene and I were talking about presents the other day, both of our birthday's and our anniversary are in November (or should that be is in november?) Our budget right now is tight, so the thought of motorcycles and diamond rings is out of the question. Too bad, cuz that's what we want! The Blue Man Group is coming to Charlotte November 3rd and that would be an AWESOME present for Eugene, I just don't see how we'd get the money to buy the tickets- they're not cheap. The past couple years we haven't done much, I take that back, one year we did go to a bed and breakfast for our anniversary, it was sweet a big surprise to me too. Other than that our birthdays and anniversaries have been pretty laid back; but this year is FIVE years! I can't believe we've been married five years. I think I deserve diamonds. :) So.. does anyone have any good cheap ideas?
And then there were two
Last night I was proudly showing trying to show Eugene Lexi's new tooth. She had been determined all day not to let me touch it or look at it. He finally figured out a way to trick her into letting him feel. It was very creative; he would open his mouth and say "ahhhhhhhh" while rubbing his finger across his bottom teeth then say "your turn" and put his finger towards her mouth. She fell for it, opened her mouth wide saying "ahhhh" and let him rub his finger across her gums. well he insisted he felt two teeth, I kept looking, as much as she would let me, but I only saw one. So we were in a small discussion all night about if there was one tooth or two. This morning she woke up (still with her fever) and while eating her generic fruit loops i saw two teeth. Yup, he was right, I was wrong. I admit it. If they come out as fast as they are coming in we'll need to take out a payday loan to pay the tooth fairy.
